Back-to-School & Co-Parenting Tips for NH Families

Making Back-to-School Season Smoother for Co-Parents and Kids

The first day of school is always a mix of excitement and nerves. Kids are picking out backpacks, looking for the coolest shoes, and counting down the minutes until the bus arrives. For co-parents, the back-to-school season can feel a little more complicated. Between new routines, school events, and homework schedules, it’s easy for communication to get tangled. But with a bit of teamwork and sometimes a little mediation this transition can be smoother for everyone.

Start With Dates
Before the school year begins, take a few minutes to look at the school calendar together. Half-days, teacher conferences, and holidays can quickly become points of tension if one parent is caught off guard. Many New Hampshire schools release calendars early, so reviewing them together and adding events to a shared online calendar can save headaches later.

Divide the Supplies, Not the Stress
School supplies can be another source of friction. Instead of duplicating efforts, try splitting the list. One parent might handle notebooks, pencils, and folders, while the other takes care of backpacks or lunchboxes. Kids notice when both parents are contributing, and sharing responsibilities sends a message that they are supported in both homes.

Work With Teachers as a Team
A quick joint email to introduce yourselves to your child’s teacher can go a long way. Let them know your child has two households and that you want information shared equally. This small step can prevent misunderstandings and ensure neither parent is left out of important updates.

Plan for Homework and Activities
Homework routines might look different in each household and that’s okay. What matters is consistency and clear expectations. Agree on quiet times for homework and discuss logistics for sports, music lessons, or other activities. Who will handle pick-ups, drop-offs, and fees? Planning ahead keeps the focus on your child’s success instead of logistics.

Keep Your Child at the Center
Kids feel the stress when parents disagree, but they also notice when parents work together. Attending a school event together or cheering at a game even if it’s just side by side can reassure them that both homes care about their education and well-being.

NH Tip: Online Portals
Many New Hampshire schools offer online portals for parents to check grades, attendance, and assignments. Make sure both parents have access. This keeps communication open and helps prevent misunderstandings.

A Final Thought
Back-to-school season doesn’t have to be stressful. With early planning, shared responsibilities, and clear communication, you can give your child a smooth and supportive start to the year.

If co-parenting challenges are making transitions harder, mediation can help. At Common Ground Mediation, I work with families in Hillsborough, Rockingham, and Strafford counties to create parenting plans that reduce conflict and put kids first. Mediation can give you a neutral space to coordinate schedules, clarify expectations, and keep the focus on what matters most: your child’s success and happiness.

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